A couple of weeks ago, Anubhav Sinha released the trailer for Thappad. It highlighted the importance of the boundaries of love. It also showed the extent to which women are forced to endure domestic violence because OMG log kya kahenge? The movie’s concept was heavily lauded for re-starting the conversation on abuse in familial households and people, especially women, should walk away from such relationships. And now RSS chief Mohan Bhagwat has basically said that they shouldn’t.
While addressing RSS workers who were present at a gathering on Sunday with their family members, according to Deccan Herald, Bhagwat said,
“Nowadays the number of divorce cases have increased a lot. People fight over trifle issues. The cases of divorce are more in educated and affluent families, because with education and affluence comes arrogance, as a result of which families fall apart. The society also falls apart because society is also a family.”
He further added that,
“We expect swayamsevaks to tell their family members about their activities in the Sangh, because many times women members of the family have to carry out more painful work than us to ensure that we can do what we do. The condition of the society is because of the customs that have been practising here for the last 2,000 years. Women we have here were confined to homes. This was not the case 2,000 years ago. That was the golden age of our society.”
And just when we thought he was done, he said some more,
“Hindu society should be virtuous and organised, and when we say society, it is not only men. A society is the one which gets its identity due to its sense of belonging. I am a Hindu, I respect the places of reverence associated with all faiths. But I am firm regarding my own place of reverence. I have got my sanskar from my family, and it is ‘matru shakti’ which teaches us so. There is no society without a household, and women, who comprise half of the society, should become more enlightened. But if we do not care about our society, then neither we will survive, nor our family.”
Contrary to popular opinion, I think Mohan Bhagwat is correct. I think education and affluence does cause divorce. Because with education and affluence, people realise that there’s more to life than that one abusive family that they’ve gotten into by chance. Because with education and affluence, people realise that they don’t have to rely on emotional dependence from idiots in order to maintain a sustainable lifestyle. Because with education and affluence, people realise that they can travel the world with all the money they’ve made, meet new people, and learn new things instead of adhering to some archaic family values in order to be called a ‘good Hindu’.
I don’t understand why people like Bhagwat think that divorce is a bad thing. It’s not. It might be hard on the kid in the family. But I am sure that eventually they will understand that their need for parental attention isn’t as important as the pain that their parents are enduring by being with each other. So, yeah, get educated, get affluent, and if that relationship ain’t working, get divorced.